Should
Your Child Go to Camp with a Friend?
This is a question that parents often ask Renee Flax, the Camper Placement Specialist for the American Camp Association, NY and NJ. Here are some of her thoughts on children going to camp with a friend:
- Camp is a
place where children can reinvent themselves. Your child has gone to school with the
same children for years and may be thought of at home as the athletic
child or the shy child. At camp,
your child can be whoever they would like to be. It’s harder to do that
when your child is at camp with a friend from home. Your child can have their camp life and
home life.
- When you
send your child to camp with a friend, your child will feel they have that
friend to count on and might not be as outgoing in making new friends. One
of the friends may also get closer to another camper and the child he or
she came with could feel left out.
You might run the risk of the children not being as close when they
return home after the summer.
- If your
child won’t go to summer camp without a friend, have a conversation with
the camp director and let him or her know that these children are friends
from home. Consider putting the friends in separate bunks. The friends will still see each other
every day, but they will have the opportunity to be with new campers and
push their comfort zone a little bit.
- Going to
camp is a growth experience for children.
For children who go without a friend, it lets them know that they
can meet new friends and be independent and in the end, gain self
reliance.
- Often
parents will make a decision about camp based on the camp that their
friends’ children attend. Unless
your child is similar to theirs with comparable needs and interests and
you both have the same values, you may find that the camp they find ideal
for their child, might not be the right fit for yours. Do your own research and make sure you
know and agree with the philosophy of the camp you are considering.
- Worried your child won’t make friends at camp if he or
she doesn’t go with a friend? Don’t be!
Camp is a community where children bond quickly by sharing in the
activities and traditions of the camp. Manyy camps host a pre-camp day event for first time campers. This is a good way for children to meet other
children going to the camp for the first time. If a camp doesn’t offer this
type of event, your child will still make friends easily, even starting from the bus
ride to camp!